First, I would like you to read the title of this blog post again, but to the tune of Katy Perry's Ur So Gay. To express my seriousness I have summed up this post in a title with a tune! Now, I have been basically ignoring the whole cyber bullying mumbo jumbo because it's hard to fight something when half the people you are trying to fight with about it... are just too ignorant to fight with. Seriously, have you ever seen a nasty comment somewhere and tried to calmly explain to the person who wrote it that perhaps their comment was a little harsh but they are entitled to their opinion? Try it. Because I've tried it. I was met with the worst txt talk type combined with horrible spelling, grammar that would explode the minds of any english teacher, and misuse of the caps button along with no caps where there should be caps. Like a name... or a singe 'I'... or the beginning of a sentence... you know, if they remember to put a damn punctuation mark.
Side note: Maybe we should get rid of the damn caps button. If people who write this garbage actually had to hold the shift button down for a lengthy sentence they would probably say 'fuck it'.
Back to the topic at hand. There are just a few things I want to say, which means this is going to be long. Consider this part numero uno of this rant: If you are going to talk smack, at least show the seriousness of what you have to say by practicing some basic english skills. Unless you are on a cell phone txting and are trying to be quick, there is no real need to make a sentence that people have to spend a majority of their time trying to decipher like hieroglyphics. if u type lik dis then U SHULD STOP TYPIN!!!!!! It hurt too much to try and make the 'then' a 'den' it really did, so I had to switch it back. Pick up a book and maybe pass a few english tests, then you can have your keyboard back.
Numero dos. If you, for one minute, nay second, think that you are mister or misses bad ass because you just bashed someone you probably have never even met in person on the internet, then you are deluded. You're a coward. It's real easy to talk crap on Twitter, Facebook, Youtube, anywhere you have to use a keyboard. Real easy. It's an entirely different thing to bash them to their face. I am going to use punctuation to show how I am saying this in real life: You. Are. A. Coward. Regardless of whatever that person did to fuel your rage, if anything at all, the minute you post something nasty you are still a coward and pathetic. If you think you should be allowed to say these things, then by all means, go up to the person and say them. But hey, I get it, it's real easy to hurt someone when you don't have to look them in the eye and actually witness first hand the pain you are causing. If you have the gaul to hurt someone, then you should have the balls to look them dead in the eye while doing it. Anything short of that, and you are a gutless bully, and I use the term 'bully' over jerk because it is, in fact, a bad word. Another bad word that used to be an okay word, but in todays world it's a bad word. If you are being called a bully, you are being called a bad thing. Just FYI.
Numero tres. I am going to dispel something here. The giant lie that I bet a majority of people tell themselves before and after they click a 'post' button. Yes, your comments do mean something. I know the internet is a giant live wire. It's a place to be someone else. The shy kid can suddenly be loud and outgoing, the ugly girl can now show how beautiful she is, the jock can be a poet, the homosexual can find friends and support they can't even get in their hometown or school. There are great things involved with the freedom to go where you want and post what you want and talk to people around the world. There are excellent messages out there for struggling people that sometimes want to end it all, or are suffering from eating disorders. The internet has a potential to better the world by connecting people. However, it also can destroy people. I repeat, what you say on the internet, does indeed matter. It especially matters to the people you write about or to. Telling someone to go 'die' or calling them vulgar names on the internet for the world to see is cruel. And yes, those people probably, no matter how they act big and tough in their comments back to you, cry themselves to sleep, or think about killing themselves. It is almost impossible not to feel the tiniest bit of sadness and hurt when someone attacks you. No person should purposefully set out to hurt another person. How you can sleep at night knowing that you made someone feel like dirt is beyond me. Because frankly, the minute you intentionally hurt someone, YOU are the dirt. Look at the comments on this youtube post:
Now, I don't know anything at all about Cher lloyd. I know she was on X Factor, and sings the song With Ur Love that I happen to be liking on lately. I think I've listened to it five times in the last hour... okay, you got me, it was eight times. Now I am once again after typing that last sentence. Anyway, I am just going to post the necessary comments here:
"If you get famous, people will test you.
Public memorial facebook wall? That's like building a brick wall in the ghetto and expecting it to not getting sprayed on. Casting show? You are a CLOWN, here to entertain the masses. They don't care about you, they only care about how you will react next.
If you break down, you are to weak for the public. Hatemail is nothing compared to the things the media will do to you once people start talking about you."
"Buck up, nut up, shut the fuck up and step away from the computer.
Problem solved.
Sitting there FORCING yourself to read comments you know will be shitty is just torturing yourself. People are mean, WELCOME TO THE INTERNET.
These kind of reports just annoy me, minus the assholes who deface memorial facebook pages cause that's just being a prick beyond all hell."
Now I could be interpreting these entirely wrong. That is another folly with the internet. Text leaves an awful lot to interpretation. Let it be known that these statements... are completely true. Hard fact. The internet is a cruel place, and if you are in show biz the world is a cruel place. But this is what gets my panties in a twist: Why? Why the fuck is that okay? Do not pardon my language I very much meant to say 'fuck'. Excusing this behavior as okay in any way shape or form is the god damn problem. Because it is 'people are mean' as an excuse that makes people not want to do shit about bullying in the first place. You can be a jerk and not attack people. It's called having a sense of right and wrong. People don't HAVE to be mean, and because they don't HAVE to and they CHOOSE to, there is no excuse. None. Nada. Zilch. 'Oh, the internet is filled with bad people so you just need to get a backbone.' Okay, well, since the only thing you are suggesting is to get a backbone than obviously you care nothing about the real problem or a persons right to use the internet without having to deal with Joe Shmoe at the other end of the globe telling them they wish they would die. Why we sit here and excuse bad stuff is beyond me. Yes, it's hard to change the world, but it's not impossible. And bullying will never truly cease to be. We are human, and therefore flawed. But the views on it can change. Instead of telling people to get thicker skin or get out of the slaughter house, you should tell the bully's to just plain stop. Before you think about it, I am not saying attack the crap out of the bully's. That is just adding to the fire and two wrongs does not make a right. There is no real justice in trying to make a bully cry. Making them realize that they have to change their behavior because it is no longer acceptable is better. So I am saying to flag them, report them, de-friend them, say words of encouragement to the person they are hurting, and if you don't agree with the person they are hurting, than have some CONSTRUCTIVE criticism, not uncultured and cruel jibes meant to do nothing but hurt. If their comments are not tolerated, or fueled by attacking them back, then it would lessen at least a little, or a lot depending on the amount of people that do it. You are tolerating it. I am even tolerating it. I don't just write things here. Chances are I have done or had things that I post about done to me. It's wrong.
Also, freedom of speech does not mean freedom to hurt others. Just putting that out there. Because I do believe that the people being hurt have the right to be damn happy. And don't you think for a second that you having a right doesn't come with the responsibility to use it properly.
My name is Amanda Davis. And I'm against bullying.
P.S. - Once again I can relate this back to bad parenting. Why you aren't invovled enough in you child's life to know that they are doing this crap is beyond me. Your job once you give birth is to teach your child to be a good human being. Parenting fail.
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